Sometimes in our lives Fear can overcome us so much that we don’t do what we really want to do. Sometimes we don’t even realise what is happening as our fear manifests in beliefs we have eg “I’m not good enough to do that”; “I’m not coordinated enough or sporty enough”; ” I don’t have the qualifications” etc. And sometimes we simply put up barriers or have excuses – “I just don’t have time right now” “My family really needs me I can’t possibly go and do something I might enjoy”; “I’ll do it next year.”
When you get a hunch that you might be scared to do something a good tool is to confront it. Try and make it your best friend, stare it in the face and find out its ins and outs. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.”
Also knowledge about what lies ahead can empower and help conquer fears. I often find this with job search for people. Once they do some delving whether it’s about how can they get into a job they want or finding out more about the area they want to get into, then making decisions about their direction is so much easier. Information is power! Remember Rumpelstiltskin? He was destroyed once the miller’s daughter learned his name and called it out. When we name our fears, bring them out into the open, and examine them in the light, they weaken and wither.
So what would you do in life if you had no fear?